Single Shaming. Can we knock it off already?

Single man staring at landscape

Single shaming is a bit of a tongue twister for me. It also happens to get my blood boiling. If you haven’t heard the term before, you might assume it’s a product of the over-sensitive and easily offended. As someone who doesn’t consider herself overly sensitive, easily offended, nor single, I can assure you it’s real and it’s time we stop doing it.

Single shaming usually starts innocently enough with asking a question like, “Are you seeing anyone?” These tactics are  primarily focused on women. It absolutely happens to men, but it’s not as prevalent. Continue reading

Body Image Work Doesn’t Go On Vacation

Vacation, just out the window.

Vacation, just out the window.

I am on a much need mini-vacation. I’m in sunny California for a long weekend with a good friend, The Lindz. By all accounts, this should be a weekend of unwinding, drinking wine and enjoying life. I packed all my favorite clothes. I’ve gathered all my new books to read. I’ve started a list of all the places I want to eat….

…. And then all the fun comes to a screeching halt. Enter all of my insecure body thoughts. This weekend I’ll be surrounded by new people. I’ll be drinking more than normal. I’ll be eating differently. I won’t be able to control my world as tightly. Suddenly, all the joy and exhilaration I had from taking a vacation is gone, replaced with insecurities.  Continue reading